Today we celebrate the birthday of our youngest daughter.
She’s brought endless amounts of joy and laughter to our family, since the day
she was adopted in December 2004. I would venture to guess that for many
adopted children and their families, birthdays can be difficult. On a day when
the rest of the world celebrates the glorious entrance of a life, created by
God Almighty, for adoptees, there also come waves of sadness and grief that
work themselves into the day.
It’s unanswered questions like these that make birthdays
especially difficult:
1.
Why did she (birthmother) leave me?
2.
Does she love me?
3.
Is she still alive?
4.
Will she go to heaven?
5.
Do you think she’s looking for me?
6.
Do you think I’ll ever find her?
7.
What does she look like?
8.
Do you think I look like her?
9.
Do I have biological brothers and sisters?
10.
Where’s my birth dad?
So, when my daughter asks these questions, how do I respond?
How do you respond when you face questions yourself, that most likely will
never have answers this side of heaven?
Of this I am certain:
1.
God loves her. John 3:16
2.
God has a plan for her. Jeremiah 29:11
3.
When she’s afraid, she can come to Him and trust
Him. Psalm 56:3
4.
When she is anxious, she can give it to the Lord
because He cares for her. 1 Peter 5:7
If you’ve also struggled with questions that
don’t have answers, you can be sure of these same things. Our frail, human
state drives us to our knees and to the foot of the Cross, seeking comfort only
He can give.
